THE COMPLETE GUIDE TO
Setting Boundaries with a Parent with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Created by Therapist + Coach, Torie Wiksell
The roadmap you can use anytime you need to set a boundary with your parent (or honestly, anytime you need to set a boundary with anyone in your life!)
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What's inside the guide...
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Setting realistic boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder
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Mentally and emotionally preparing to tackle that (dreaded) boundaries conversation with confidence
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Techniques for communicating your boundaries plus 10 example scripts that you can follow
The Four-Step Plan to Boundary Setting
Step 1
Answer three important questions that will allow you to Clearly Define Your Boundaries.
Having clearly defined boundaries that consider the realities of who your parent actually is (instead of who you are hoping they will be) is the foundation of successful boundary setting with a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder.
Step 2
Practice the exercises in Step 2 to Prepare for Communicating Your Boundaries with Confidence.
These simple exercises will emotionally and mentally prepare you to handle the unavoidable stress involved with setting boundaries with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. It’s not impossible to deal with- you just need to prepare!
Step 3
It’s officially time to Communicate Your Boundaries!
I’ll guide you through that process and give you 10 example scripts of common boundaries to set with a parent who has BPD or NPD. By Step 3, you’ll be ready to take action and have a clear plan on how to implement your boundaries.
Step 4
I know, it feels like we should be done, right?! Almost! Our final step is super important - I’ll teach you how to Successfully Enforce Your Boundaries.
Pushback is almost a certainty when setting a boundary with a parent with BPD or NPD, but don’t worry- I’ll teach you how to handle pushback without backing down on your boundaries.
Next, Rinse & Repeat
Setting boundaries isn’t rocket science- even with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. But, it does take the knowledge and understanding of what works (and what doesn’t).
This roadmap can be used time and time again to set boundaries with truly anyone. Because, if you can set boundaries with a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, I promise you, you are absolutely capable of setting boundaries with anyone in your life!
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✺ Frequently asked questions ✺
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The guide will be emailed to you immediately after purchase.
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In all honesty- probably! You need a clear plan for setting boundaries when your dealing with a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. And, my guess is, if you were already super clear on what that plan looked like and felt confident executing it, you wouldn't be reading this right now.
This guide is designed to help provide you with the structure and confidence you need to effectively set boundaries with a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder.
This guide is great whether you're just thinking about setting boundaries, have tried to set boundaries in the past with little success, are simply curious about what setting boundaries would even look like, or are ready to set boundaries right now.
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This guide is not therapy, nor is it a substitute for therapy. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, this guide is not for you. Instead, please contact a licensed therapist near you or seek support through the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline by dialing or texting: 988.
This guide is also not sufficient to address concerns around safety (yours or your parent's). If you are concerned about your parent becoming violent or potentially harming themself in response to you setting a boundary, please contact a licensed therapist near you or reach out to me for coaching.
I can help coaching clients develop plans to appropriately address their safety concerns.
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Feel free to email me at torie@confidentboundaries.com with any questions you have. I’ll do my best to answer them and help you decide if this guide is right for you!
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Due to the nature of a downloadable pdf guide, I do not offer refunds.
Please contact me with any questions at torie@confidentboundaries.com for help deciding if this guide is right for you before purchasing.
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Yes! While this guide is designed to support you with setting boundaries with a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, the steps inside can be extremely helpful when implementing boundaries with other people in your life.
And, in all honesty, if you learn how to implement boundaries with a parent with BPD or NPD, you can learn how to implement boundaries with anyone :)
Have other questions?
Send me an email! While I am confident this guide will be a useful tool in your journey to set healthy boundaries, I am happy to talk through specific questions or concerns you may have before purchasing. I’m usually pretty quick to respond, but give me at least a day or two to get back to you!